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What’s with all the hateful critics on here?
September 19 2019
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RHP User
6 years ago
A meeting or medium where views can be discussed/exchanged. If someone asks for opinions they will get honest ones. Personally I disagree with 2 things, which are married guys on here behind their wives backs. Ive been cheated on and its not pleasant. Shagging multiple people without protection is my other bugbear. So many guys Ive chatted to on here love the idea of group sex and creampies yet say they wont wear condoms. So yes, I can be pretty vocal about my dislike of these things but thats just me. If we all thought the same and agreed with everyone else it would be rather boring. I like men wearing womens underwear which is not to everyones taste but I have a thick skin and dont give a toss what anyone else thinks. No one is judging, just disagreeing with the poster. Why is it bothering you so much....its online chat after all and once you log out of RHP it shouldnt impact on your real lives.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
I disagree with the intent of your post but see why you may be feeling a bit ruffled. There is a variety of personalities within the forum that vary from regulars and occasional. Within those personalities is a lot of experience of the goings on within this taboo lifestyle. It's a lifestyle that combines great people, beautiful souls but it's also is a magnet for sleaze bags and scum that will take advantage of any opportunity to achieve their end (usually a wet end). Experience can allow to be able to see some of the routines that are employed to take advantage and therefore called out. If it was, as you say, a case of being hateful, others will very quickly call them out, posts deleted, people banned. Sure, wrong calls are made but that is no different to normal life. We as individuals can only call it as we see it. Collectively as a group, it self moderates to a respectable level l believe. Problems do arise when people post to achieve a result that they want to achieve. A predetermined outcome as you would. But if it's not right, it will never fly. The public arena can be harsh, you need to be grounded. If you have your head in the clouds of fantasy, you will be served a slice of reality and brought in for a landing. It can be a perfect landing or it can be a crash and burn if you are off with the fairies
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SSExplorer
6 years ago
I agree. I think some on here just love to hate. They throw negative opinion after opinion out there with hardly a positive one in site. Easy though as you soon learn who they are! Have to agree with Koko though, sure we have fantasies about cum play but the realities of safe sex are important to keep in mind. The good thing about people expressing their opinions on forums though is it makes it easier to see who you might match with. I’d also kinda agree on the cheating on partner thing but sometimes opinions from a high horse aren’t the best. Sure we are in this together, it makes it so much better and no guilt but I have met a number of people, women mostly, that are in a happy marriage but have desires they just can’t fulfil with their partner. They don’t want to leave the relationship, they just want to explore. If they do this in as safe a way as possible, who am I to judge? I try and live by the adage “do whatever you want so long as you are not harming others” I guess we could extend that to “have whatever opinion you want, but if it’s hateful please treat it like the shit that comes out your arse and don’t share it around”
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RHP User
6 years ago
The forums can be a terrible place but I would still say it is a good place to come and ask a question. I think the majority of the scorn on here is heaped upon new members who have yet to work out the Basic Etiquette of online dating and forum posting. I suffered from this scorn myself when I first joined - my perception of what RHP would be did not match reality. I copped a reasonable amount of flak on here, some of it unwarranted (I still maintain this is a sex site, which still causes some heartburn among some here) but most of it was a fair cop. We do see the same questions posted over and over again which gets quite boring, and it tends to happen in waves - people are obsessed with unicorns one week, squirting the next. Some people get fed up with this which they shouldn't - there are categories specific to fetishes and the like which people have posted their question to and it has appeared under the main header. The person asking the question hasn't done anything wrong, but people feel the need to get on nonetheless and piss and moan about it. Some people phrase their questions really badly. The worst seems to be blokes who think that joining RHP will result in this orgiastic bed-hopping with multiple hookups every week. They get on here and express their dismay at the lack of such progress and are usually flayed alive in the forums. This may spook them into leaving RHP altogether, or it may result in them adjusting their expectations and attitude. Blokes do cop it the hardest on here by quite a comfy margin, which shits me no end. Bloke looking for extra-marital, even if he's upfront from the get-go? You're a dirty cunt. Woman looking to do the same? Best of luck, you must be married to some kind of arsehole for you to be here. The thing that shits me the most by far though is when, like you mention OP, someone posts a question that may be a bit silly and people dive onto their profile looking for some flaw or ''gotcha'' point. If you don't like the question, attack the question by all means. Granted, there have been occasions I've seen here where someone has called out the validity of someone's profile after a silly question posted and the poster has disappeared, which seems to imply that they were a fake. There are some people on here though that act as gatekeepers to the forums who deploy this tactic with everyone new though, and there is a distinct possibility that they spook legitimate first-timers who are just taking their baby-steps and have just had a bit of a stumble. I'm not perfect, there are times when I've crossed the line of civil discourse on here, but I try to comment only on topics where I can provide some value to the discussion. There are some bad and dodgy questions posted here, and I will also give a critical answer in the least insulting way that I can. Having said all that, and fuck me do I give some long-winded answers on here, you do have to have some kind of resilience in any online forum. You think it's bad here, pop into Reddit and have a look.
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On_Safari
6 years ago
The forum can be a terrific source of information, support and sound advice on the flip side it can also be a trial by fire, vexatious and a place to point score against others you may or may not know or have had any interaction with. Some have been here for many many years and know each other personally and travel to spend time together. Those friendships I’ve found very rewarding as I do the events, my encounter ms and some of the conversations I’ve had over the years. It does get disappointing when you see the same people aggressive towards others but those same people can also help you learn about other people’s taboos. Personally I wouldn’t let the personalities here dissuade you from participating in the Forum. It is after all just another platform for gaining insight or perspective from random faceless people. Like people on Facebook who ask about where to look for work, live or tradies people recommendations. I love my Pie Family, the Forum I can take or leave. Enjoy your day ~ Indy On Safari
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thecatsmeowaus
6 years ago
I happen to love squirting and being a Hotwife 😈🥰😜
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RHP User
6 years ago
There will always be some negative, judgemental people on here and in life. That's their personality. As I've gotten older I have adapted a live and let live attitude. As long as people's actions don't harm me or my family then go for it. There's nothing wrong with fantasies as your imagination can run wild. It would be an ideal world where there was no threat of STI's. A lot of those fantasies could happen. If you come across a troll, don't feed them as ignoring them will make them go away
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Samnite
6 years ago
Almost everyone prides themselves on being able to be honest and tell the truth. The problem, however, is that honesty and truth are subjective. Very few people understand that what is their truth is not necessarily another person's truth. They also do not understand that their "honest thoughts/opinons" are not necessarily helpful or even relevant to others. But, of course, this is the internet. This means that whatever truth I believe must be universal, surely. Therefore, I have a right to shove that truth down everyones' throats.
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RHP User
6 years ago
This isn't a buy & sell group where everyone gets what there looking for! Let's face it, for some? Trying to bring to life a reality outside of the norm can be frustrating. So... there are some already Frustrated people out there who join RHP hoping to remedy this! Then over time find it increasingly difficult to fulfill there individual goals, adding to more frustration! Of course causing misdirected anger towards any subject's seeming to be of a match to which show no return interest! A guess would have it that there are a few resentful members venting by beening spiteful of others! Can't please everyone all the time? Can't control the negativity! Life is what happens whilst you busy making other plans so everyone just needs to be grateful that were living in a time, era or modern age? Where we have the opportunity to chase, seek out our fantasies or dreams! 👍
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RHP User
6 years ago
Sometimes it can be annoying as hell, other times I think people need to be put in their place & I’m right there willing to give it a shot, lol. To answer your question though, I don’t really care if someone has a fetish/preference I’m not into, I just care that they treat others decently, if I think that’s not happening I’ll usually chime in and yes, I do feel then that I have the moral high ground and will get passionate (aka cunty) about it, which sometimes leaves me looking no better than the person I’m having a go at 🤷🏼♀️ that’s just how things go, nobody’s ever going to get it 100% right in this or any other arena. Ms Phoenix
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
If anyone feels there are hateful( such a strong word ) posts, it's a simple process to report. There is a button right above the post for said purpose. The moderators have to review and if they agree, will delete. Continued abusive/hateful contributions from the same posters that are reported will be warned and if the behaviour doesn't modify then they will be banned temporarily or permanently. That has happened in the past but it does require you to press the button. It's there for the purpose. I've used it several times and said person was permently banned. And again when they reappeared as a new entity. Hatred/abuse should not be tolerated under any circumstances.
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kevanfi
6 years ago
I believe that at the end of the day there are two options......Mine and everyone else’s........which we’ll call the wrong option. 🤭🤣🤣🤣
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
What's trash to some is treasure to others. Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
The usual suspects All wannabes. Wanna be popular, wannabe interesting, wannabe non judgmentle 🤔 wannabe noticed wannabe sexy. All introverts behind a keyboard. So easy to be judgemental on a forum. More than likely the most boring dull people you'd ever meet. Not interested in there opinions it's just fishing for more likes and msags.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Actually, the forum regulars have all met most of the other forum posters and are the most social people you will probably never meet. They go to/organise meet up events and are certainly not introverts. One of my best nights was in Adelaide with a few of them......and "boring" and "dull" are not words I would use
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RHP User
6 years ago
The hypocrisy of people judging others for being judgmental is not lost on me, how very amusing 🤣 This is one of those instances I was talking about where people try to take the moral high ground but end up looking just as bad as everyone else they’re having a go at. Ms Phoenix.
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RHP User
6 years ago
What I am interested in is other ppls interest and fetishes. Like to see men being able to express there thoughts without being shut down. I might not agree with them but feel no need to post useless negative comments. Which usually turns into nothing more than a group chat with the same ppl trying to out message each other..
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hi, I believe that what one person finds pleasurable or desirable (as long as it doesn’t harm anyone) is fine. Everyone has their own personality, tastes and preferences. If a person’s sexual fantasies are not my cup of tea, then I simply don’t message them. I don’t judge them either. I just think fair enough good for them, whatever rocks their boat. Sometimes too, people’s personal preferences change or they are curious about something and this is not reflected in their profile. It doesn’t necessarily mean that they are fake, it just means that they haven’t updated their profile or they are unsure. My take on this is everyone is different and it’s not necessary to troll people or play games with them. Basically keep it positive and be kind. It doesn’t hurt.
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Mrs_Deep_Love
6 years ago
I would say you need to relax. You are taking this all way too seriously. It's supposed to be fun. If reading this forum isn't fun....... get out now.
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
But wait OP, you have gone out of your way and put others down in your post by name calling "Trolls'. Two wrongs do not make a right. You are just as bad as the "trolls" as you stated. Who are you to be judge and jury? We treat people how we want to be treated. So don't go writing a forum up to butch about others here. It is not cool. Ms Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Just an observation ... “There are plenty of examples in these forums where people are shutdown and criticised because something in their profile doesn’t perfectly align with the question they are asking in the forums, they are assumed to be a single male posing as a couple or just a fake a profile, they are bullied to the point where they feel it is best to leave the platform altogether which really just feeds the trolls on here who think they are fake.” This doesn’t really correlate with your thread does it?? Or is this a secondary point?? I’ve really not seen anyone get hassled over their fantasies, except for those years ago that I saw that had a thing for dressing up as babies etc...but to be honest I don’t think that that was all that unreasonable as in my mind, it desensitises in my view a really bad issue... Perhaps you could post some of these examples of where people have been bullied over their fantasy so I can at least get on your page?? After all, one man’s banter is another man’s bullying... Mr Dragon
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
Talking about Adelaide...best memorial weekend ever! Annie! 😂😂 Ms Foxy
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting '3andmore4' The usual suspects All wannabes. Wanna be popular, wannabe interesting, wannabe non judgmentle 🤔 wannabe noticed wannabe sexy. All introverts behind a keyboard. So easy to be judgemental on a forum. More than likely the most boring dull people you'd ever meet. Not interested in there opinions it's just fishing for more likes and msags. For providing a perfect example of a judgmental post that you have provided from behind your keyboard. Well done.......
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Talking about Adelaide...best memorial weekend ever! Annie! 😂😂 Ms Foxy My head hurts thinking about all us introverts in action there
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RHP User
6 years ago
No, there are no multiple truths. This is exactly what I found problematic with relativism. Those people who believe that all is relative - confidently and categorically claim that there are "NO truths" or that there are "multiple truths". However, when it comes to things happening to them, they are not that consistent - then their truth is the most valued. Even when it is not the case, they slip into Machiavellianism to justify everything and everyone in a blink of an eye (including their own actions). Tell it to the holocaust victims that there are multiple truths. What a nonsense. And it's even more disturbing that those people never realise the consequence of their nonsensical reasoning. What I find troublesome OP, is the value judgments people are so eager to share without considering others' feelings. (Ms)
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RHP User
6 years ago
A lot of naïveté, misinformation, bitterness, grandiosity, hypocrisy, etc. It's the I generation where it's all about them. No one else matters.
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RHP User
6 years ago
DEATH TO THE TROLLS!!Hang them out to dry on the pegs of their own words.I am a troll hunter. No argument of negativity, division or hatred can stand before me.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Isn't this thread interesting. And revealing, mirrors can be mean !
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Seems I may have struck a chord with some with this thread, and not with others. All good either way, that's what life is about. I will say what has really surprised me though, is the number of private messages we got from people who agree with the sentiment of the thread, but aren't willing to comment publically due to the risk of being critiqued and possibly attacked by others on here. Truely has never happened before for anything we have posted which makes me wonder: How much better would this forum be if people were nicer to others and didn't attack those who don't align with their way of thinking? My guess is there would be more input, more conversations and more connections as more people are actively engaging with others, exacrly like what a forum like this is designed to do...... I wonder what the "other camp" would take of that knowledge though, knowledge that their words, their behaviour, their bitter negativity holds others back from contributing to a forum like this (yeah I know, that was hypocritical of me to judge the other camp, so be it, they'll survive or use this to further feed their anger, either way) I will say that my experience with similar traits online, and my personal guess is that the "other camp" as I have referred to them as (no offence intended, just a term used for one side of two different opinions), will angrily reject and deny it has anything to do with them, probably even blame the silenced people as though it was their fault for being too soft or weak...... Prove my right or wrong if you like, I welcome the opportunity to have these types of conversations, especially if it empowers others 🤔😐
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RHP User
6 years ago
it's the new politic, if you don't like what others are saying, don't have the discussion, shame, ridicule, slur and de-platform. whenever possible.
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RHP User
6 years ago
That is a divisive device.The only reason to fear voicing your opinion is if you can't back it up with a coherent argument.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
I went blank searching for the words to say pretty much just that. Well articulated
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
You have been asked to give an example that gives argument to your OP topic. None have been provided to support your "Hate" topic. You used the word. You or one of your supporters is welcome to put it up. Names are not required, just quotes. Otherwise your OP could be considered in the same "camp" as the "camp" you are talking about.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Just a topic will do so we can have a gander? Maybe I'm padding this out to make it go mainstream into everyone's stream. 5 posts to go
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RHP User
6 years ago
The squirting topic springs to mind, most got deleted. The recently departed know all of that topic was also pretty handy throwing the creepy word around at any guy who dared to disagree or question.
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Just a topic will do so we can have a gander? Maybe I'm padding this out to make it go mainstream into everyone's stream. 5 posts to go Lets make this go mainstream, I'm keen
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'TheQuiet1' That is a divisive device.The only reason to fear voicing your opinion is if you can't back it up with a coherent argument. Completely the opposite actually, I'll always voice my opinion without fear, hence this thread was started
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'PeachyPearL' A lot of naïveté, misinformation, bitterness, grandiosity, hypocrisy, etc. It's the I generation where it's all about them. No one else matters. Apparently everyone is entitled to everything and anything they want, it's the new way of life...
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'Dragon_Phoenix' Just an observation ... “There are plenty of examples in these forums where people are shutdown and criticised because something in their profile doesn’t perfectly align with the question they are asking in the forums, they are assumed to be a single male posing as a couple or just a fake a profile, they are bullied to the point where they feel it is best to leave the platform altogether which really just feeds the trolls on here who think they are fake.” This doesn’t really correlate with your thread does it?? Or is this a secondary point?? I’ve really not seen anyone get hassled over their fantasies, except for those years ago that I saw that had a thing for dressing up as babies etc...but to be honest I don’t think that that was all that unreasonable as in my mind, it desensitises in my view a really bad issue... Perhaps you could post some of these examples of where people have been bullied over their fantasy so I can at least get on your page?? After all, one man’s banter is another man’s bullying... Mr Dragon The basis of my thread is the annoyance of continually seeing the same people on here publicly criticise people I know because of a post or comment on this medium, they are forever scouring over other peoples profiles to find what they believe is a gap or irregularity in their profile so that it can be used to beat them down and shame them. Look at any thread in this forum where people suggest they like squirting, unprotected sex to name just a couple. I'm not saying I agree or disagree with the posts or the fantasies expressed in them, I am just making observations about the way people treat others online because of something they don't agree with or understand...
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Just a topic will do so we can have a gander? Maybe I'm padding this out to make it go mainstream into everyone's stream. 5 posts to go As UseBi Mentioned, Squirting is a common one
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Just a topic will do so we can have a gander? Maybe I'm padding this out to make it go mainstream into everyone's stream. 5 posts to go One of the more recent threads is the Hotwife Coming Home with a Creampie thread (https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Hotwife-bring-home-creampie-59756) Yes, I get the safe sex side of this. Yes, I get the STD side of this. No, this isn't something we would participate in. But, none of that means it isn't valid for others, doesn't mean that people need to be criticised, bullied, made fun of, assumed to be hiding a secret profile online from the Mrs, etc. etc. etc...
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' You have been asked to give an example that gives argument to your OP topic. None have been provided to support your "Hate" topic. You used the word. You or one of your supporters is welcome to put it up. Names are not required, just quotes. Otherwise your OP could be considered in the same "camp" as the "camp" you are talking about. Didn't realise there was a time limit to responding to each and every comment on a thread, doing my best to reply to the all tonight See my last post regarding some examples, I'm sure you have seen the threads anyway but I have listed a few to try and appease the forum gods
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'NewVicCpl' Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Just a topic will do so we can have a gander? Maybe I'm padding this out to make it go mainstream into everyone's stream. 5 posts to go Lets make this go mainstream, I'm keen I have replied to a bunch of comments to try and help pad this thread out and make it go mainstream, hopefully we have made it across the line tonight
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RHP User
6 years ago
I love flamboyant guys. But not when used in the context of "them" and "us". I know a few people who like reading the forums for entertainment value but dont wish to contribute. Truthfully, if the forums were that bad a whole lot of threads would be gone by now. I like a good debate, and wont be strewing rose petals in front of my posts anytime soon. Ill be in the tent with the camp guys and the champers.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Why can't these people who aren't willing to comment back their opinions with coherent arguments?I don't see this dichotomous "other camp".I see that as a deliberate construct for you to create an enemy.Annie summed it up early on in the thread with her first post and agree we do a pretty good job of self moderating. The only opinions i see getting taken down are negative, divisive & hateful ones because they can't stand up to scrutiny.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I am happy with most fantasies except those that hurt others. I am fine with consensual pain like BDSM but unwanted violence, lying, cheating, unwanted degradation is all wrong in my opinion. Anything consentual by all parties involved is fine
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'TheQuiet1' Why can't these people who aren't willing to comment back their opinions with coherent arguments?I don't see this dichotomous "other camp".I see that as a deliberate construct for you to create an enemy.Annie summed it up early on in the thread with her first post and agree we do a pretty good job of self moderating. The only opinions i see getting taken down are negative, divisive & hateful ones because they can't stand up to scrutiny. Never have I suggested a different opinion or point of view is an attack on anyone, differing opinions are what the world is made of and we should all voice them accordingly, that's exactly what these forums are designed for. You are also assuming that someone putting forward an opinion and backing it with a coherent argument makes them immune to the critiques of others, sadly too many people have experienced the exact opposite which is why they chose not to comment in public. Sure, you may not agree with them but that isn't the point, after all, it isn't about you...
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'XantheaHunter' I am happy with most fantasies except those that hurt others. I am fine with consensual pain like BDSM but unwanted violence, lying, cheating, unwanted degradation is all wrong in my opinion. Anything consentual by all parties involved is fine People are free to have any fantasy they chose to have and I am happy with them to do so, that's what makes us individuals after all. There are many things that we are not into personally, anything violent, non-consensual or degrading as you have mentioned, and anything child related are absolutely off limits for us.
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'Kokoflamingo' I love flamboyant guys. But not when used in the context of "them" and "us". I know a few people who like reading the forums for entertainment value but dont wish to contribute. Truthfully, if the forums were that bad a whole lot of threads would be gone by now. I like a good debate, and wont be strewing rose petals in front of my posts anytime soon. Ill be in the tent with the camp guys and the champers. Camp probably wasn't the right word to use, likewise, hateful was probably a wrong choice as mentioned by Annie in one of the very early replies. I maintain that there are two teams, sides, halves, groups, attitudes or whatever it is we should say to describe the differing opinions people have, where one half default to an offensive stance and the other a defensive one. Sometimes, the offensive team can be repetitively aggressive and they come across as hateful....
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RHP User
6 years ago
Also to see comments from our newer forum generation who haven't had the experience of how the forums can be until recently. It was a quiet time we were having before that. One person returned, now gone again, and the whole tone changed. Thanks for the topic and being an active OP. 🍑
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RHP User
6 years ago
We're not just talking differences of opinion here but personal attacks. It's one thing to have an opinion on a topic and another to debase someone to demean their opinion. I've learned a lot here, it makes a lot of online activity pale in comparison. 🍑
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Thanks for the homework for the "camp" to deduce.... Notably yes, squirt threads have always been dynamic. But compared to 4/5 years ago, pretty tame now. A few women got tired of all the male self proclaimed experts and started a comparative prostrate milking thread which unknowingly became a "thing" . Anyways, we shall sit around the fire and digest it over a few bevarages.....
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Thanks for the homework for the "camp" to deduce.... Notably yes, squirt threads have always been dynamic. But compared to 4/5 years ago, pretty tame now. A few women got tired of all the male self proclaimed experts and started a comparative prostrate milking thread which unknowingly became a "thing" . Anyways, we shall sit around the fire and digest it over a few bevarages..... The last time we sat around a fire and had a few drinks was a good night, until next time
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BungCpl
6 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Thanks for the homework for the "camp" to deduce.... Notably yes, squirt threads have always been dynamic. But compared to 4/5 years ago, pretty tame now. A few women got tired of all the male self proclaimed experts and started a comparative prostrate milking thread which unknowingly became a "thing" . Anyways, we shall sit around the fire and digest it over a few bevarages..... The last time we sat around a fire and had a few drinks was a good night, until next time
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RHP User
6 years ago
The fresh air in here is bloody marvellous 💨
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RHP User
6 years ago
Completely agree with OP. Given the taboo of the lifestyle we were thinking that these forums would be kind of a sage space as we can't easily speak about these topics with everyone else. However, what we found is a forum filled with some toxic persons. We didn't post that much, we sometimes read the threads and it's not super pleasant. We keep coming back reading from time to time to see how it goes or read about the dating scene in Australia. Someone mentioned the report button. Unfortunately I think it's far from being effective. What makes a community toxic is not just post filled with hatred of insult (we don't have that much here, that's great), it's also the constant cynism and sarcasm, the ad hominem arguments, the arguments of authority to shut down others and also the entitlement of some people to give their opinion on everything. And you can't report/ban this easily. Someone posting a thread about how they want information on X topic, a regular arrive and can't stop their urge of posting that they didn't like X, enabling all the others to drift on a yes/no question about X. I don't think that giving specific thread as examples can really help though. I fear the discussion will just drift about how, for this particular topic it's like this or that. What would be better is to acknowledge the feeling of some that they don't feel safe to express themselves here. And that, it's a shame that we all should try to fix.
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hotdelights
6 years ago
wellcum to the new world EXACTLY thats what RHP is about a mix of all u covered opions we all got a heart but we are not the same
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RHP User
6 years ago
Providing everything is safe and consensual (or consensual non-consensual 😉) then go for it. If you’re into something obscure, chances are there will be a Fetlife group dedicated to celebrating that exact fantasy. This is the very last place that people should be judging others. If someone’s fantasy doesn’t align with yours, then scroll on past. Easy!
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MsSuperFoxy
6 years ago
There's no Hate here or camp. I feel now after reading and RE-reading this forum it is more against and targeted towards the "regular" posters. It only becomes an issue if you make it an issue, which you have OP. For those who have a fear of posting, well that's their issue, no one else's. There is some great "regular" posters here. If it wasn't for them (including myself), the forums would be boring as bat shit. If anyone doesn't like it, stiff. There's plenty here. LOL! Ms Foxy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Agree totally with Kentia, I have contributed to threads a couple of times. I was attacked with aggression, which in turn makes me very reluctant to contribute, simply because why bother. I have just been reading another thread and the OP has attacked anyone who made statements of how they felt if it varied from theirs. I think I will block them and their aggression, but don't know if it works on the forum. I am finding now that with Facebook, if I continually see things like climate science deniers, or racial vilifyers, I now block them, I don't want to propagate their extreme views, even if it is an acquaintance. I totally agree with the OP of this thread,They are peoples fantasies, may never be real, may never happen, its about what floats their boat. It has no effect on my choices, so what value is their in denigrating them, each to their own I always say.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I agree with the simple thought that everyone is different and has different views and circumstances. You simply cannot judge a person from their profile of some very basic profile descriptions etc. the whole thing about people getting amped about men who play behind their wives/ partners back really irks me. Most of these people are married or partnered women, I mean c’mon, glass houses and all. Everyone has different circumstances and it isn’t always just about people cheating. Life is more complicated than that. As for living out a fantasy that someone doesn’t agree with, you know what instead of harassing someone about how you don’t agree, simply move on from that profile - so simple.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Haven't had time to digest the homework yet but have had the feeling from the start of the thread that there was an "us and them" air about it. Especially with the camp comment. You make it sound like the regulars have a team/ group mentality which is way off line. Sure many of us have met at different venues around Australia and readers may see that in the postings that we are familiar with each other, the ones that havn't met, familiar just through through the writings in here. People who don't post often may feel a little out of the loop and if posted against or challenged in their belief of their post, feel intimidated and drop their bundle. Much like when you go to a party and you don't know anyone- you feel anxious, at least l do. Things don't go exactly the way you want, you grab your handbag and run to the car cursing the group of arseholes you didn't quite get to know. If it weren't for those regulars, very few topics would go mainstream and a lot of information never learnt by the many who only visit the forum when they get listed in their stream when we go "crazy" as it is described as, on it. We have opinions just like you all and are all approachable in here and out there, but maybe our fault is we don't pander to bullshit, call it as we see it. If our writings were full of hatred and too harsh, we wouldn't have instant posting as given to us by the moderators.
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BungCpl
6 years ago
No, not targeting Regualrs. Well, not all of them. You are right that there are plenty of regular posters on here, some are great, respectful to others and provide positive responses, encouragement, sound advice etc.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and generally, they stink.
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RHP User
6 years ago
You love to help ya.. iam open to anything..shemalegrinder at my.cum.. you can get me here.
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Brass_Monkey
6 years ago
Hey to both of you, good on you for posting this! I was on a similar platform, with my ex, only to be criticised as well! All I can say is, haters are going to hate, let them, the negativity will sort them out, in the end! By the way, AMAZING pictures, hell yeah, for saying fcuk the doubters!
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Quoting 'NewVicCpl' Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Just a topic will do so we can have a gander? Maybe I'm padding this out to make it go mainstream into everyone's stream. 5 posts to go One of the more recent threads is the Hotwife Coming Home with a Creampie thread (https://redhotpie.com.au/Adult-Forums/Hotwife-bring-home-creampie-59756) Yes, I get the safe sex side of this. Yes, I get the STD side of this. No, this isn't something we would participate in. But, none of that means it isn't valid for others, doesn't mean that people need to be criticised, bullied, made fun of, assumed to be hiding a secret profile online from the Mrs, etc. etc. etc... My first page of homework.....Please point out any abusive/hatred in thereSure many pointed out the obvious health risks but most wished them the OP good luck with his endeavours. If any of that offended you, we could be in for a tricky time.....
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RHP User
6 years ago
That most of the nasty stuff gets deleted yes ? So a bit hard to quote, besides naming and shaming isn't cool. Carry on.
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RHP User
6 years ago
We don’t seem to get negativity regarding our likes etc but I do hate the guys/couples that arrange a meet and then stand you up without notification!! These people deserve criticism and to be black flagged to be ineligible from the site for whatever period.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Who attacked who.Back before the internet i dated a woman who went to great lengths to hide the fact that she squirted from me.Regardless of how understanding i was she was unable to get past the shame and stigma.It repressed her libido which was part of the cause of the failure of the relationship.To force the words urine and piss regardless of the degree of technical truth on women who have lived through that stigma is in my opinion a reprehensible act of bullying.It comes from a negative basis and won't stand up to scrutiny.I don't agree with or engage in personal attacks.But that this provoked them in response is hardly surprisingAs for teams, sides or whatever. I stand alone. I think there is a range of people and opinions here.To lump them all into an us and them distinction is inaccurate, unnecessary and divisive.Why do you need enemies?
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vanillanot
6 years ago
We both prefer and love our international lifestyle trips (our regular play partners) and international lifestyle meeting sites much more relaxed friendly and open minded over the open waters away from Australia has a lot to learn about the lifestyle a shame really because we think Australia could do a lot better but it is what it is..
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RHP User
6 years ago
Why write about stuff if you get upset if others dont agree Do what makes happy and stuff anybody else Its what puts a smile on your face that matters Do what you do enjoy and smile lol
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RHP User
6 years ago
I've really admired your style. Your last post above me is a beauty. I agree with Kentia that examples aren't going to help. Your post goes some way to help explain why. Aside from the fact any examples will be gone over with a fine tooth comb because cognitive dissonance is a thing. Annie, having IP doesn't make us moderator proof. We can still have our posts reported and deleted, you know that. You've posted and complained about it when it's happened to you often enough. In general, it's like so many regulars have taken this personally. Why? Kentia made an excellent closing statement about people caring that resonated with me. OP, thanks for the topic. 🍑
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RHP User
6 years ago
This thread shows the us and them attitude with the refusal to take on the OP and the fight for your life to discredit it response. Cheers, 🍑
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RHP User
6 years ago
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Have never minded critism where warranted. And have apologised where l have overstepped. But the old blanket statements everything is fucked achieve nothing. And don't be doing the glass house thing, yourself having been suspended, lost IP and driving people away from the forums more times than l can remember.
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Enjoy your weekend. I'm out of this thread
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Have never minded critism where warranted. And have apologised where l have overstepped. But the old blanket statements everything is fucked achieve nothing. And don't be doing the glass house thing, yourself having been suspended, lost IP and driving people away from the forums more times than l can remember. I think you missed my point, I was referring to what you said re: having IP which means what we say is ok by admin, and not judging you at all. The fact is those of us fortunate to have IP wil have posts deleted if we're reported and it is decided the report is relevant. I've lost my IP over my own actions at times and I accept that as well as accepting that RHP decided I was deserving to have it again, which I currently do. I was not talking about adults who have the ability to make choices to come or go and be adult enough to take on their decision as theirs instead of blaming one person for all their ills. I agree I was suspended from posting after a lie was sent to the admin about my actions on the forum and my explanation to admin had my suspension swiftly removed. But please go back to the topic, it is about hateful critics, and we do have them. Not all of us, and not all the time, so it's not a blanket statement at all. Peachy
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'usebi'🍑
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RHP User
6 years ago
I've struggled under the thumb of hateful critics where I was name called and judged by the majority so many times but I chose to stay because they don't rule my world despite the pain and doubt caused for the longest time. The posts are still there, I rarely bothered to report my abuse for ages, so they never got deleted. Nowadays, I'm still hearing about the group activity behind the scenes where regulars talk about making fake profiles to bully individuals in particular. I'm glad the forum has improved a lot in recent years with the efforts by our admin but I'd like to see people being able to discuss their kinks without the negativity that people could choose to put on a thread of their own if they feel so strongly about it, then they can see how they feel when people post to disagree. Cheers all, Peachy, gaslighting is how I describe my experience these days.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Everyone. Annie, I do know you have a good heart, don't be gone long. 🍑 xox
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RHP User
6 years ago
Thanks for the thread, these themes have come up here and there, usually within other threads and usually get over run. This thread appears to have gained some traction. We’ll done.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Mewe is another alternative Facebook without rules pretty much it’s on the App Store or google play
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RHP User
6 years ago
Here’s how I approach the forums......and yes I have no doubt that I’m seen by some people as one of these mentioned hateful critics....there will also be those who will no doubt attest I’m not one...but let’s face it, I have my moments where I’m really not into diplomacy about some things.... Those who think I am, awesome... Those who will say I’m not....awesome... Personally I don’t care to know who thinks what, because in the really big picture who even cares what a stranger thinks of them?? Since I’ve been here, I’ve been called a sociopath, a borderline rapist, I’ve had death threats forwarded to me into my inbox...it’s been a wild ride to say the least....but as peachy said prior why the fuck should I allow someone else’s opinion of what I say to determine my direction in my journey?? I want to disagree with the OP on some things, but I also agree that there HAVE been times that some people(regulars and newbies) have been a tad over the top...I don’t really recognise it as an intentional act though...I think it has a whole lot more to do with them keeping things short and sweet...that can read poorly ...now I’ve run out of room but I’ll be back...
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RHP User
6 years ago
It can read extremely poorly even... But I must say, sometimes I think the age old saying “sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me” has somehow managed to morph into “sticks and stones will cause a fatality, and your words will put me in therapy!!” I understand that people want to be validated and accepted....but for me, I get that validation and acceptance from within, I don’t rely on coming from a perfect stranger on a random forum like RHP or Facebook... I’m not trying to be a nay sayer here, but I am saying to people don’t take this stuff personally.....I for one want to apologise to anyone that may have felt I was ever too harsh on them.....but growth is what I aim to inspire people to do, and sometimes that means you gotta see your ugly....we all have an ugly, and yes it’s fucking agony to look at it, but don’t fear the ugly, as the ugly is where you will find your biggest growth...not the pats on the back.... I’ll leave my thoughts with this and hope you all find that strength to push past what you perceive is deliberate crap and become the new regular posters....all y’all are awesome Mr Dragon
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RHP User
6 years ago
That probably doesn’t make much sense....there’s just o much to this topic that I start off point and end with vomit on my sweater already from mums spaghetti... Mr Dragon
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RHP User
6 years ago
...not near enough fucking. Uncomplicated solution to a silly problem...getcha gear off and fuck a friend today! Too many moron and moronettes with nothing better to do than put up sorta sexy pics and pretend they will fuck ya then for whatever reason have no time for anything else but these trivial fucking forums. ʗɱ
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brokenhands
6 years ago
You know what it is?.. People talking the talk and when faced with the walk, freeze up.. and rather than admit it or be respectful about it, they throw aggression at it to try and get some sort of last laugh bullshit.. Fuck the haters
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RHP User
6 years ago
Common courtesy is expected at a minimum Crap to hear... As the saying goes... if it walks like a duck, quakes like a duck .... It’s a duck 🤷🏼♂️ Good luck with the journey ahead 😊
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RHP User
6 years ago
Good post and that's why I usually stay away from forums in general, YouTube comments, Facebook page comments.. an increase in anonymity really gives people a rage boner. Mums advice was right... just ignore them
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hey I am new to this but I am looking to experience new things and new people, a bit nervous but hey, just putting it out there. , 😁
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moreforyou69
6 years ago
We don't take kindly to folks who don't take kindly around here.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Hateful people do not speak of you.They merely inform you of there unhappiness.The pictures our words paint are self portraits.
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RHP User
6 years ago
NewVicCpl Great thread. You put it out there and as expected, they didn't just take a bite, they took the whole cake. Touchè
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RHP User
6 years ago
Our old mate Plato, way back in the day, philosophised vastly about metaphysics. One of his finest quotes: 'Wise men speak because they have something to say; fools because they have to say something'.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Great qoute sexybliss
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RHP User
6 years ago
Can be found criticising hatefully... 😂
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RHP User
6 years ago
Good on ya I'm tired of all these imperfect people acting perfect and judging others when they are probably worse then us
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RHP User
6 years ago
At the time of writing the “climate change protests” thread has reached 9 pages with barely a hint of personal sledging and animosity. Well done us. 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟 🌟
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